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Be Like Water

  Despite my Irish temper, I try to go about my daily business doing my best to help others. At the very least, I try to keep my mouth shut and mind my own business.

When I started a career based solely on service to others, I struggled with it for many reasons.

I was surrounded by trauma, suffering and sadness. Quite often those emotions were expressed as anger and frustration, and directed at me.

 Before leaving the house every day,I read a little plaque that I had hung by the front door;

The highest goodness is like water. Water benefits all things and does not compete. It stays in the lowly places which others despise. Therefore it is near the eternal.~Lao-Tzu~

Each day I read this quote, hoping that I could just make it through another day.  Be like water, I reminded myself…be like water.

As pithy as it sounds, there is beauty in the dim, dark and mundane places that we so often avoid. 

Being joyful is easy when life is fun and exciting, not so easy when tedium exists. Not so easy when stress is relentless day after day. 

One of the secrets to happiness is being in the present moment and offering gratitude, even if it’s just that the present, unpleasant, moment will be over soon.

Be like water….

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Tuesday – My Perpetual Nemesis

Tuesdays have always been my  Nemesis, always wanting more from me than I have to give. They are a day that even my university roommate dreaded due to the oddities I happened to drag home with me, either in person or in spirit.

Tuesday – you may be a bitch, but I’m far more fabulous and hard-headed than you will ever be!

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How to Be Creative

magicalcreativityStop.

Just stop doing what you habitually do.

Easier said than done, isn’t it darlings?

It’s a pretty difficult, if not nearly impossible thing to actually do.

When you must work instead of daydream to pay the bills, creativity can be awfully hard to coax out from inside your cluttered, cog-work-brain.

Just this week, some poor, unsuspecting, arrogant fellow managed to make me angry. Not annoyed at-you-angry, no, none of that. I mean, the kind of angry that finds my soul flipping his soul the mother-of-all birds.

It made me realize that I had allowed this spiritual niblet to make me angry, and, darlings, we can’t be having that. We are ladies of spirit and dignity. We stand for what is good and right and we must be reckoned with.

moments of decisionWhen we find ourselves bowing down to some imaginary regime, we must always take a clear stand of independence, and trust me darlings, that’s exactly what I did.

The key is to recognize that it is imaginary. We have made it so in our minds. Which means we can un-make it.

The trick is to actually recognize that you’ve been had. You need to be aware of the fact that you have a choice when your temper flares, or tears fall, or your heart goes pitter-patter.

Upon becoming aware, you need to step away and find some peace. You throw open the doors of your silly old brain and call out for some clarity.

Clarity is the capacity to recognize and distinguish the unlimited variety of thoughts, feelings, sensations, and appearances that continually emerge in the mind. It is also called luminosity. Without clarity, we wouldn’t be able to recognize or identify any aspect of our experience. ~Shambala Sun, Nov. 2014, Adapted from Tsoknyi Rinpoche with Eric Swanson, from Open Heart, Open Mind: A Guide to Inner Transformation~

Sometimes the best way to slough off the dead skin of mundane-musts and come to some semblance of clarity is eek out some solitude and try one of these;

1) Take a highway drive and sing at the top of your lungs to whichever music lifts your mood.

2) Long, hot baths. Candles, music, and your beverage of choice.

3) A full day of nothing. No plans. No going out or coming back in. Just staying put, in your own home, with no distractions.

4) A visit to an art gallery with no agenda; no particular exhibit you must see, no timed exhibitions and a notebook to write the thoughts inspired by someone else’s expression of the human spirit.

5) Writing. Write it out. Write what you think and feel.

6) Reading. Read something you wrote five years ago, yesterday, anything. If you don’t write, read the biography of someone you admire. It’s often reassuring to know that most people who do great things in the world were often told they had it all wrong.

7) Look at the stars. Just bundle up for the weather and look up at the clear, night sky. It will make you realize just how vast the possibilities are.

8) Get yourself to the ocean. There’s nothing better to soothe aching wounds than to get lost in an endless vista of rolling sea.

wellQuite a few of us do not have the luxury of escape, but we all have the luxury of limitless minds. Seeking stillness and replenishment of our human spirit is what provides depth for our creative wells.

Chances are if you feel lost, empty, meaningless, you have let your well run dry.

Wishing you the cleansing rain of clarity to saturate your creative spirit.