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Edge of Desire

"...maybe this mattress will spin on it's axis and find me on yours..." ~John Mayer~
“…maybe this mattress will spin on it’s axis and find me on yours…”
~John Mayer~

I know, I know, I post this once or twice a year, but I love it.

It makes me think of you, and miss you, and feel nostalgic for the pain of loving you.

Sleep well, and if you love someone….

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The Music Of Your Life

Scene from a high school dance in Tallahassee,...
Scene from a high school dance in Tallahassee, Florida (Photo credit: State Library and Archives of Florida)

Few things can take me back to a moment in time like music.

I know which song was playing on the radio when I had my first car accident way back when I was a teenager.

I remember “We Are Family” blaring out my speakers as I made a badly timed left-hand turn into a ‘family’ vehicle full of brothers. To this very day I hate that song.

I remember rocking my infant, colicky child listening to She Bangs, with tears in my eyes, thinking to myself, that the Grand-She would never bang again.

Of course there are songs that make us remember the ‘true love’s’ that have come and gone from our lives.

I remember coming in from my very first kiss. My teenage self settled into a long bath set to the dulcet tones of Meatloaf’s, You Took the Words Right Out of My Mouth, and I continued to dream about when that lovely sensation of a kiss with the boy of my dreams, and when it might happen again.

The very first song a boy dedicated to me on the radio, and dubbed as “our song” was Bob Marley’s  Stir It Up.  And stir it up we did my darlings. Over and over and over. Shameless isn’t it? I’ll admit, if I could go back  and do it again, I’d spend way, way, way more time skipping class and making love in every somewhat private nook and cranny we could find. Le sigh.…those were the days.

Then there was the tragic rebound relationships spent with a lovely young man. Appropriately enough, he chose Lost Together as our song. How telling, how ominous, how wonderful to double as our inevitable break-up song as well? Irony is the tragic tale of the romantic at heart my darlings..

Somewhere in there were ‘our songs’ with various and sundry other true-love-wanna-be’s; Sinead O’Connor’s Nothing Compares to You, The Human League’s originally titled, Human,  (two very poor choices for love songs by the way). Of course, growing up in the 90’s, every girl had a boyfriend choose Bryan Adams’ Everything I Do to slow-dance and smooch too.

Don’t you think there should be way more slow-dancing and smooching during our  adult years? Wouldn’t it make the days pass with more tantalizing anticipation, and night fly by on the wings of passionate love making? Yes, yes it would. Note to self; talk to my man about making this happen…

Let’s not forget the boys who liked country; Keeper of The Stars, Chances Are ( A Personal Favourite of Mine) and If Tomorrow Never Comes.

I offer up a selection of my musical memories from around the world;’

The Englishman; China Girl (Don’t ask, there’s only so much peeking into my intimate moments)

The Northern South American: Suavemente

The More Southerly of the South Americans: Words Don’t Come Easy (This One’s for you Teri Old Gal!)

The Kiwi: She Doesn’t Dance

The West Coast Guy: Moondance

The Older  Italian: Take a Chance on Me

The Viking: Saltwater Man & Blue Sky girl or Patricia The Stripper

The Other Older Italian: Night Time is the Right Time

My Adult Crush: These Foolish Things

The Young Hottie: Beside You

The Frenchman: Kiss and Say Good-Bye

The Younger Hottie: Leave Your Hat On

My Sexual Mentor:  Ain’t No Cure For Love

Now, don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t all swooning, candlelight and love songs my sweet little lovelies. There was plenty of heartache, and even more laughter.

My wish is that tonight you sip something warm, slip into something slinky and reenact some of your musically inspired fantasies with your wonderful, much-deserving men.


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A Woman Like You


It’s time to wind-down the weekend with a glass of your favourite spirit and a great song. Pour yourself  a glass, turn the lights down low, and click on the link….

A beautiful Sunday evening to you my darlings….

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I Would if I Could

After love making
After love making (Photo credit: Matt Romack Photography)

…after a day like this, I would slip into a t-shirt, panties and flip-flops and crash in front of the television with my favourite take-out and a cold beer.

I would eat it all, and savour every delicious drop straight from the bottle.

I would know that you were on your way.

I would light some candles and turn out the lights.

I would put on my favourite music, and slide into a hot bath with a glass or two of wine.

I would shave my legs and smooth every inch of my body.

I would soak, deep, deep in the water, right up to my neck.

Wrapped in my favourite bath towel, I would smooth lotion over my warm, damp skin, and sing along to the love songs at the top of my lungs.

I would set out our ice water, your wine, turn down the bed, and warm the massage oil.

I would look forward to you; your big hands, your soft kiss and your machismo.

I would meet  you at the door with nothing on but my smile.

I would kiss you out of your clothes and into bed.

I would caress every blessed inch of your body

I would wash away the demands of the day with passionate love making,

and I would rest, head on your chest, hand on your heart

until tomorrow

and then

I would start all over again.

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Happy Valentine’s Day ~OR~ VD if You’re A Love-Cynic

 “The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.”~Rumi~
“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”

Red, white, and lots and lots of pink.

Valentine’s day, the quintessential ‘Hallmark’, synthetic holiday has arrived!

You, my sweet Georgia peaches, have either chosen to snub it, or to embrace it.

If you’ve chosen ‘snub’ over love, I suggest you pour your lonesome self a big ol’ glass of something delicious (shake up a few actually), and hide away while the rest of us shower love and affection on our friends and lovers.


May I suggest:

“Not Tonight I’ve got a Heartache”

1 part Gin

1 part Campari

1 part Sweet Red Vermouth

Fill a shaker with ice, and pour liquor over ice. Shake until outside of metal shaker begins to sweat.

Pour into a glass and try to enjoy it despite your cynical mood and black as coal heart.

Click HERE for some mood music.

If you’re alone tonight, but hopeful that the pigeon of love might perch on the eaves of your heart,

 THIS may be a better mood music choice.


For those of you with more spirit, who may still be scurrying to finalize the last touches for a romantic evening,  I offer you a suggested playlist;

1) Bob Marley: Stir It Up

2) John Mayer : Edge of Desire

3) Jason Aldean: Don’t You Wanna Stay

4) Bruno Mars: It Will Rain

5) Aretha Franklin: Natural Woman (because every woman needs a man to make her feel like this)

6) Kenny Chesney: You Save Me

7) Stephen Marley: Hey Baby (for the bad boys)

8) Chantal Kreviazuk: All I Can Do

9) Blake Mills & Danielle Haim: Heart of Mine

10) Adele: Make You Feel My Love

11) Lionel Ritchie: Stuck On You (because sometimes love is tacky)

12) Leonard Cohen: I’m Your Man (play this song for your lady-love after two glasses of great wine and you’ll wish you packed an overnight bag)

I hope this VD finds your little pea-picking hearts full of love!