It was a simple sign that hung above the chair of my friend’s father during the last years of his life. We were never sure whether it meant he’d had enough, or that he felt like all that he had was enough; a distinct difference.
It was a quiet transition from the old to the new this year, but a transition nonetheless. With change on the horizon at our home for the slippery, tail end of 2017, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. In the moment however, I feel like I have enough, and that’s an awfully nice feeling.
One thing that I’ve noticed contributes to much unsatisfaction and anxiety is how ruthlessly we subject the minutiae of our lives to the scrutiny of being under the microscope.
He’s lounging in a smoking jacket with his slippered feet up, and a tumbler of bourbon to help clear the path of reflection.
New Year’s resolutions have always seemed a little silly, and a lot naïve to me. It’s the same with people who say they’re, ‘finding themselves’ or trying to figure out ‘who they are’.
I don’t make resolutions any more. Not even secret ones just for myself. I simply try to find joy and silliness in every aspect of my life; work, parenting, friendship, love and yes, even housework.
If you are joyful, you become friends with yourself pretty damn quickly. Your body enjoys the kindness and you start eating and exercising naturally. Your work becomes a calling, and your relationships are a calm ocean where you can relax and refresh yourself.
We are born knowing ourselves. We tend to allow expectation and adulthood fog the landscape. During adolescence we seek approval from people who value meaningless things, and often never grow out of it.
If you’re busy looking for the next ego fix, you certainly can lose track of who you are and what makes your soul smile.
Ah, but not I. I’m one of the lucky ones. Life has rocked my boat and I’ve sprung a few leaks over the years, but I’ve held fast to my convictions and personal ethic.
Being a better person means being true to yourself, having the courage to do what’s right and not what’s cool.
Wishing you a joyful and peaceful transition into another calendar year. Be good to yourself, and choose joy.
Let the old year finish the bourbon and welcome the beautiful new year as the gracious, happy, loving lady that she is.
I pride myself on never, making resolutions. After all, when you’re strong, intelligent, and capable of all things, why limit yourself to just a few things, right darlings?
Well, for one, you, or I may be all of those things, but 2012 has been a hum-dinger of a year. Let’s have a little fun with a few resolutions shall we?
This coming year I’m going to go whole-hog on the resolution train. I’m going to propose a list for you my sweet little peaches, and for myself.
Some of the ‘suggested’ resolutions may resonate with you, and others may not.
Come back and check every week or so, just to see how much meat is left on the bone for your spiritual-devil-may-care-self-improvement.
1) Eat less, make more love.
2) Do not second guess someone else’s intentions. You will only ever know your own heart, so get on with it. If you’re unhappy, simply move along.
3) Connect with others, not because any of you NEED something. Just connect. Enjoy being surrounded by the wonderful people who care about you.
4) Control your anxiety. Meditate or medicate, whatever gets you through the night my tender little dumplings.
5) Remind yourself on a daily basis just how far you’ve already come. You are strong, you are capable, you are freaking awesome!
6) Lower your expectations. Just because you see wonderful potential in another human being does not mean they will ever succeed in reaching it. Accept others as they are, and invite them into your life based on how they ARE, not how you would like them to be.
7) Fear – kick it in the pants. The best gift you can give to yourself and your children is fearlessness. Not crazy, stunt-person-put-your-hand-in-the-tiger’s-cage-fearlessness, but a fearlessness that let’s you explore and learn.
8) Believe in love. Believe in romance. Believe in lovers being your best friend. Sweety, all of our hearts have been put away wet a few times, but it’s out there for you if you just believe.
9) Appreciate the world around you; Spend more time in the city. Take in the lights, the life, and the culture. Spend more time in the country, learn about where your food comes from, and how to do-it-yourself.
10) Don’t accept the gift of negative poo-poo from anyone. They can dish out whatever they want, but you don’t have to touch it. Simply don’t accept it. Reject it politely,with a smile of course.
11) Hug more.
12) Take up a new-old hobby that you used to love but got squeezed out of your life when you were too busy becoming a responsible adult. Responsible can also be fun, flirty, and interesting. Do not be dull.
13) Smile. Hope. Dream, and believe that it will come true.
You may like my little list, and you may think I have bats in my belfry. Whatever the case, I hope that you can choose one or two things to inspire you as the old year disintegrates, and the new year rises from the ashes.
Wishing you peace. Wishing you wisdom. If you’ve mastered these two things, then I simply wish you joy.