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PMS & The Full Moon

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Yes, that’s right darling, they go together like crackers and cheese, like peanut butter and chocolate, like bullets and guns.

It was a long week of colliding energy, which, my tender gooseberries, has inspired me to write a list of top annoyances, complete with accompanying rant.

Oh, don’t go all pseudo-spiritual on my bloated self. I do a damn fine job of being kind, polite and thoughtful every day. An accumulation of rudeness can tip even the most gracious lady over the edge. This week I had the pleasure of witnessing an abundance of bullshit doled out by folks that seem completely ignorant of sharing space and time with others.

With that in mind, I give you my list of PMS & Full Moon week annoyances;

1) The dude who cracked every single knuckle in all ten fingers during meditation. Followed by his neck, back, and tapping his fingers on the floor. Clearly he needs to relax, but next to me? In meditation? No. Go home and relax. Come back when you’re ready to respect the space.

2) That people think I’m a freaking charity. My week was filled with, “Will you’s, can you’s  and please do’s”. I don’t mind helping, but I got out of the business of martyrdom years ago. It’s an ugly way to go about life. How about get off your ass and help yourself? You’ll be shocked at how much you can accomplish when you stop playing the victim.

3) Cancelling dates…coffee dates, movie dates, times that you’ve asked me to set aside to help you, and you not being on time. Helloooo darling. Can you say annoying????

4) Public displays of  personal grievances. Really, you want me to be sympathetic to the same problem you’ve had with the same person for the past two decades? See #2. Take control of your own life and quit playing the victim.

5) Men who clearly don’t know the difference between their ass and a hole in the ground. This includes, friends, colleagues and potential love interests. My darling men (except my pal C.G.), don’t bother us if you’re all talk and no action, don’t say stupid things, and just be nice.

6) People who take things that don’t belong to them. Do I even need to go into how inappropriate this is? Yes, this includes pens, mugs, and food.

7) People who expect you to care about their days, emotions and concerns who do not extend the same courtesy back. Life is hard for all of us darling, and I have an address just like you.  After listening to a pal’s rant,  I began to talk about my day, her response was, ” I don’t have time to listen to this.” In other words, ” Thanks for being my emotional dumping ground. I’m not really your friend, I just need to feed off your energy”.  This is not reciprocal friendship, it’s free therapy. See #2.

I think that  finishes the PMS & Full Moon rant. I’m going to relax now, and hopefully feel more playful as the intensity of the week wanes to a sliver of memory.

Stay polite darlings, and be sure not to tolerate any of the above rudeness. You deserve better.

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Spiritual Hip-Waders

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You be the judge, or perhaps maybe not.

Maybe you might like to step back, take a breath, and lend a hand instead of tearing someone down with your judgmental old self.

It’s easier said than done, right? It’s easy to be caught up in the moment and react. Yah, I get it.

Being present, being compassionate, being empathetic; None of these ways of being are actually something many of us cultivate on a day-to-day basis. You know, with other real people, not just philosophy books, or quirky memes, or when we’re in a good mood.

It’s a constant struggle for balance between keeping firm personal boundaries and benevolence.

One thing I’ve noticed throughout my life is that the folks first to judge are the least likely to actually ‘do’, least likely to stop complaining and take risks to make a difference.

In other words, they have a shallow pool of spiritual awareness and like to baptize us all with their egos instead of donning a pair of spiritual hip waders to explore the fertile, magic, muck of their own humanity.

We all fall short sometimes and we know it. Trust me kittens, the last thing anyone needs is to be kicked when they’re down. In other words, if you don’t have anything kind so say, keep your cake-hole busy biting your tongue.

Some folks need to be needed. It’s misplaced ego stroking at best, and just because you’re happy to be open to the needs of others without needing to be a martyr, don’t let their martyr mentality shadow your own strength and independence.

For anyone struggling with constant critics, poisonous environments or abusive relationships of any sort I offer you my final thoughts;

You know who you are and that your intentions are good.

You are intelligent. You are strong. You are beautiful.

If you’ve felt the snub of the judgmental, the armchair life coaches, and chronically bitchy, don’t you dare let it get to you. Remember how far you’ve come.

That is all my sweet darlings. That is all.

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Come As You Are: Sacred Curiosity

Shhh! Don’t tell anyone, but I subscibe to daily meditation tips, inspirational quotes and other such nonsense. 

I am passing this along. I believe the quote is from pages 4-5 of Pema Chodron’s book Awakening  Loving-Kindness.

If you wish to subscribe to these messages, I believe that this link will work for you.

THE PATH IS CURIOSITY

The path of meditation and the path of our lives altogether has to do with curiosity, inquisitiveness. The ground is ourselves; we’re here to study ourselves and to get to know ourselves now, not later. People often say to me, “I wanted to come and have an interview with you, I wanted to write you a letter, I wanted to call you on the phone, but I wanted to wait until I was more together.” And I think, “Well, if you’re anything like me, you could wait forever!” So come as you are. The magic is being willing to open to that, being willing to be fully awake to that. One of the main discoveries of meditation is seeing how we continually run away from the present moment, how we avoid being here just as we are. That’s not considered to be a problem; the point is to see it.

Forward to a friend.

 
 

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