On the eve of my 4o-plus-somethingish birthday, I cannot help but reflect upon the lessons I have learned this year. In theory I’m an expert. In practice, however, that’s another story.
I do believe that the difference between theory and practice is the key to successful living though darlings, because bridging that gap is the difference between annoying should-sayers, and the people who shine brightly and inspire the rest of us.
Grace has been a concept I’ve wanted to put into practice throughout the past few years. There are times I have failed miserably; my birthday breakdown at a bar while trying to sort out my mother issues; my insecurity as a partner, my ability to maintain a positive attitude in light of the every day demands of living. Yah, I’ve failed a few times.
But I have learned a few things from all of that bluster, and I’m old enough to take the liberty of sharing them with you;
- I have spent way too much time on my hair.
- We allow ourselves to be led by a false economy and fabricated news. Does it feel right? Do it. Does it feel wrong? Don’t. The world would be a better place if we all followed the golden rule.
- If you love your body, it will love back. At a certain point you realize your body feels better when you eat this and not that; when you do this and not that. It loves water and apples and decadent butter cream chocolate from your favourite Chocolaterie. It does not like to listen to people incessantly rambling about fad diets or extreme routines. Love your body, let it gently communicate to you, and it will love you back.
- Kindred spirits aren’t terribly hard to find, but it’s terribly hard to be vulnerable enough to get to know one.
- Create things. Anything. Creativity is your human spirit making itself present in the world. Let it sing, paint, write, carve, stitch, bake….whatever! Let your mind wander and your spirit reveal itself.
- Do not let bitchy people ruin your day. Attitude is contagious – be sure to protect yourself.
- Nobody’s watching. Seriously. Just relax.
- Change is scary, but constant. If you can be excited through the fear, you have life licked.
- You need friends of all ages; older ones and younger ones, and people who transcend age. You need nurturing and affection and the awesome healing power of human touch.
- Flannel jammies, hot tea and a good hobby to keep you occupied are three simple things that are highly under-rated.
- Always, always, always buy the shoes.