There’s a lot of advice out there. Everyone gives it out like it’s the best thing in the world. But it’s not. It’s usually unsolicited and fucking awful.
When I’m feeling like this, the most therapeutic thing to do is to pour a beer, play some Janis Joplin on the annoying side of loud, throw my hands in the air and let the universe take over.
Nobody ever gives out cool, easy Janis-Joplin-fuck-it advice. Nobody.
Today while meandering through a home decor store, I cruised by the aisle with the paintings and plethora of signs with pithy sayings.
Seriously? We all know that in ‘this house’, we do life the best we can, and that all this schmarmy shit is a bunch of Stepford-bullshit-hoo-ha.
Oh, bugger off.
Dream, hope, love…yes, I never want to lose those soft elements of my soul, but sometimes, it’s a little too much.
Tacky quotes have replaced art, creativity and independent thought. We have been so brainwashed that we hang our directives to suck-it-up in our living rooms.
Carl Jung is my hero. He championed the balancing of our shadow selves and touted it as the key to wholeness. If only the commoner could come to terms with their own anger, jealousy, fear and whatever other emotions aren’t considered pleasant.
I’d love to see some signs that say; you’re doing ok under the circumstances, and you are under no obligation to marginalize your less-Disney-like emotions? I once even thought I was going to embroider a sign to hang over the liquor cabinet that said:
Come unto me all who are weary…Matthews 11:28
Humour helps. When advice is plentiful and patience scarce, you don’t have to dance like no one is watching, or love like you’ve never been hurt. Because people do watch (and give advice on how to dance better), and we’ve all been hurt.
For those who are also weary of placating the powers that be by stealing our passion and swallowing our sense of injustice, trust me when I tell you that telling the universe to fuck off once in a while can be completely, and utterly cathartic.
Now, excuse me while I commune with Janis and carry on exactly as I am.