You be the judge, or perhaps maybe not.
Maybe you might like to step back, take a breath, and lend a hand instead of tearing someone down with your judgmental old self.
It’s easier said than done, right? It’s easy to be caught up in the moment and react. Yah, I get it.
Being present, being compassionate, being empathetic; None of these ways of being are actually something many of us cultivate on a day-to-day basis. You know, with other real people, not just philosophy books, or quirky memes, or when we’re in a good mood.
It’s a constant struggle for balance between keeping firm personal boundaries and benevolence.
One thing I’ve noticed throughout my life is that the folks first to judge are the least likely to actually ‘do’, least likely to stop complaining and take risks to make a difference.
In other words, they have a shallow pool of spiritual awareness and like to baptize us all with their egos instead of donning a pair of spiritual hip waders to explore the fertile, magic, muck of their own humanity.
We all fall short sometimes and we know it. Trust me kittens, the last thing anyone needs is to be kicked when they’re down. In other words, if you don’t have anything kind so say, keep your cake-hole busy biting your tongue.
Some folks need to be needed. It’s misplaced ego stroking at best, and just because you’re happy to be open to the needs of others without needing to be a martyr, don’t let their martyr mentality shadow your own strength and independence.
For anyone struggling with constant critics, poisonous environments or abusive relationships of any sort I offer you my final thoughts;
You know who you are and that your intentions are good.
You are intelligent. You are strong. You are beautiful.
If you’ve felt the snub of the judgmental, the armchair life coaches, and chronically bitchy, don’t you dare let it get to you. Remember how far you’ve come.
That is all my sweet darlings. That is all.