Most days are wonderful. I’m happy, I enjoy my home and my work. I like my friends. And then, there are other days. I’m not happy. I’m stressed, my job stinks and my friends are selfish. You know – those days when the words ‘gratitude’ and ‘passion’ make you want to gag, bundle them up in a burlap sack and send them to the bottom of the river tied to a cinder block. So, my darlings, I offer you a list of ten things to do on those days when you find your gratitude tank empty, and your passion gasping for air;
1) Take off all your clothes, and have a nap. Naked. With ear plugs in. You’ll be shocked at how much you needed a rest, and what a solid sleep a la mode will do for perspective. Get up and dance. Naked.
2) Run. After half a kilometer or two your shoulders will relax, your breathing will go from angry warrior to focussed tiger, and the world will be right again.
3)Go out. Visit someone. Do not hole up in your home alone and continue hating the world. Go knock on your friend’s door, sit down, have a brew (beer or tea), and catch up. Pretty soon you’ll either a) be enjoying your conversation or b) realize how much you like time by yourself and leave, thereby regaining that drained gratitude – feeling grateful you are alone again.
4) Drive. Get on the highway and just flipping drive – your favourite music blaring, and no one in the world to bother you. Once you feel like you’ve ‘gotten away’ you’ll be surprised at what treasures you find in places close to home that you’ve never visited before.
5) Walk a dog. Once, during a really, really crapola day at work. I stopped on my lunch hour and visited a shelter. I told them that I was interested in adopting a dog. I picked one, and took it for a walk. The dog loved it. I loved it, and best of all, no long-term commitment.
6)Shut the door and put your phone on ‘Do Not Disturb’. If someone comes to your office door and asks why you don’t want to be disturbed, instead of looking at them and saying , “Duh!”, just say, “I’m doing very important work in here.” Close the door again and continue your quiet, solitary, work.
7) Meditate. Set your little smart phone for 30 seconds three times a day. You’ll be shocked at how long the thirty seconds of breathing meditation seems,and how centered and calm you feel afterward. Combine this with #6.
8)Buy yourself a yummy bottle of your favourite vino or bubbly and arrange for a very adult, very sweaty rendezvous at the end of the day. Precede that by a long, hot soak and the bottle of bubbly. Voila – instant stress relief, AND if you play your cards right, you’ve had a complete full body massage thrown in for good measure. AND, you done something kind for someone else, and doing a good deed is supposed to be a top mood booster.
9)Put on your comfies and watch a good old-fashioned tear jerker if you need to facilitate some pent-up tears ( I hadn’t cried since November, and the flood gates opened last week). This is a pressure valve, and you need to loosen it once in a while. A sappy movie can be just the right medicine. Be sure to have tissues on hand because blowing your nose into toilet paper or napkins isn’t very soul-cleansing or girly.
10) Read a romance novel. Oh don’t give me that look! Harlequin is the top-selling publisher in the world. Our lives are full of demands, work, kids, family and some not-so-satisfying relationships with the opposite sex. You deserve a little romance, and if you don’t have romance, you deserve to keep the hope alive that one day, you will have a little just for yourself.
Stay cool ladies; read, drive, dance, be naked, make love….and remember, life may suck some days, and it’s ok to give it a huge lollipop when it does.